The Grief Cheat Sheet
Things to Understand “AS A GRIEVER.”
Understand that “Everyone Grieves Differently.”
Understand that it is OK to “Be Happy Again”.
Understand that you “Cannot Grieve Wrong”.
Understand that people don’t mean to say mean or insensitive things.
Understand that it is “OK to Search for New Meaning” in your life.
Understand that you have the right to experience your own “unique” grief.
Understand that you will have lots of “tough days” ahead. Be prepared!
Understand that it is OK to share your feelings with friends and family.
Things to Understand as a “GRIEF SUPPORTER.”
Try to “fully understand” the Grieving Process.
Understand that “Everyone Grieves Differently”.
Proactively talk about the deceased person. Tell stories, share pictures.
Show patience with your grieving friends or family.
Give the griever “permission” to get emotional, cry, or express anger.
Be a “Good Listener”. Let the griever tell their story.
Be “Smart in what you say or do”.
Be “Proactive vs. Reactive” when helping a griever.
Remember those “tough days” in advance. (Date of death, birthday, etc.)
Just “BE THERE” for them. No need to say or do anything.
Good things to say to someone who is grieving.
I cannot imagine how painful this must be for you and your family.
I am here as a friend. It is OK to cry or be mad or express anger.
I am here to listen if you want or need to talk.
I am here and don’t have a clue as to how to help. Together, we will figure this out.
I cannot even imagine what you are going through.
I am so sorry for your loss. We are thinking about and praying for you and your family.
I am sorry that I cannot make things better for you and your family.
How can I best help with chores around the house that need to be done?